Some people may return to live with mom and dad if they have to, or at least sleep on their aunt or sister’s sofa until they have their priorities in order. This provides a pillow. But it was never a chance for me.
Growing up I didn’t have a strong support system, I always knew that if I had any problems building my career, I could sleep in my shoddy car with a broken windshield.
It never happened, thankfully, but the possibility was always in the background when I began my journey to become an entrepreneur and build Skinnygirl Liquor, which I sold for $ 100 million in 2011.
I had to be proactive and I had to work hard. I believe success is achievable for anyone who wants to put in the effort and hard work of the old school.
Here are some key mindsets that have helped me get to where I am today:
Billionaire entrepreneur Mark Cuban actually used the expression “do the job” when I told him what success means.
He said to me, “People ask me, ‘Mark, what business should I start?’ And I say, “If you don’t know, I can’t tell you. But what I can tell you is that you have to do the job. You have to learn. “One of the greatest benefits you have is the enthusiasm for learning. It is the only constant in this life. Especially with all the changes we are going through right now. There are new things coming and you can’t ignore it. If you want to be successful you have to take the time to learn. ”
TV producer and host Andy Cohen embodies enthusiasm. I think it’s one of his secret ingredients for success.
His dream was to be on the news. After college, she moves to New York. “I thought I’ll wait at the tables until I get a job. Something has to open up“, he told me.” Oddly, a night reception assistant left a morning show shortly after I moved to New York, and I got that job. ”
he loved it
“I was working 70 hours a week, but I didn’t care. I worked so hard and felt so good because I was getting checks that said CBS about them. I just thought I was the shit. I thought I was amazing,” he said. “It’s such simple advice, but I always tell people that if you are passionate about something, you should be able to be successful because the passion will guide you.”
Don’t be the person who wants a promotion or raise just for showing up. This is the right. Earn elevation by working harder and smarter than everyone else. It doesn’t matter what level you are at: if you’re working to be successful, you can’t rest on your laurels.
Today I have a strong team, which I have worked diligently to heal. One of my assistants in particular will do amazing things in her career, because her work ethic is so strong. She will say, “I want you to feel supported, I will travel with you. What else can I do? How can I make it easier?”
This means everything to me. And because he approaches work with so much vigor, loyalty and enthusiasm, I am careful not to let myself be exhausted.
But I also see a lot of myself in her and I know that if she keeps this attitude towards work, she will be successful as she goes on.
Understanding that you are alone in your endeavors does not mean that you can do it all by yourself. I’ve never been shy about finding experts, asking questions, and getting my ideas to the right people.
Years ago, when I was working on my business with BethennyBakes, I watched Food Network shows and waited for the credits to finish. I wrote down the names of the production companies and manufacturers, so I tried to find their contact information. In general, companies are more than happy to provide the correct phone numbers or email addresses.
I’d bake the cookies, pack them, and ship them to the producers and executives in their offices along with a handwritten note. I followed with a phone call and, often, a meeting with them. It wasn’t a cooking show, but I built important connections that helped me along the way.
People always ask me to be a woman in a man’s world. But I don’t look at the world that way; I think I’m strong and moving forward.
For example, I had thought about the fact that I was a woman in a male-dominated business, where men are the power behind and ahead of brands, maybe I wouldn’t have entered the alcohol business with my Skinnygirl Margherita. It never occurred to me that some doors might have closed to me because I am a woman.
Whatever I wanted to do, I just walked in and fought to do it. I have struggled to be better than men, better than women, to be simply better than.
Don’t get me wrong: iniquity exists and is a problem. But when I do something, I focus on the task at hand. I’m not embarrassed. I believe it is the best way to achieve the goals.
I also believe that thinking of yourself in terms of identity can hold you back. It can lead you to guess what others might think about you, like “she doesn’t want to work with me because I’m a woman”, but sometimes she doesn’t.
And even if it were, I don’t think focusing on that won’t help you or your aspirations. That thought comes from a place of “no” rather than a place of “yes”.
Bethenny Frankel is an entrepreneur, television producer, podcaster and author of “Business is personal – the truth about what it takes to be successful by staying true to yourself. “ She is also the founder and CEO of Skinnygirl. Follow her on Instagram @bethennyfrankel.
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